This is a classic point well made…

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
~Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season. 
~LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant 

More of You and Less of me

ImageDo I honestly believe that God has made himself available to me? If so, then why do I say, “I want more of God!”. It is a contradictory statement because to say “I want” means “I do not have”. God has made himself available to me. Have I made myself available to him? He gives me all I want and then some. But I choose to take a little because I give him little. If I call him my Lover, then I need to do this right. He gives me all of him and I need to give him all of me. Granted, I do talk about the things that seem hard to do and take a lifetime to work on. But for starters, I need to stop saying, “I want more of you” when I need to say and ultimatley live “More of You and Less of Me.” 

Also something to look at is; We are called to love one another.  We love because he first loved us. I John 4:7-21

7Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son[b] into the world that we might live through him. 10This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for[c] our sins. 11Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. 
13We know that we live in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit. 14And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in him and he in God. 16And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. 
God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him. 17In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him. 18There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 

19We love because he first loved us. 20If anyone says, “I love God,” yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. 21And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother.

Forward Motion

Why do so many people struggle with forward motion? It sounds like a simple task to move forward, yet we get so caught up in the past and stay too focused on the present that we lose track of our next steps. So many times we try to “Get back to where we were”.  The past is real, and it happened.  The pain you feel in your life is valid! What has happened in your life has played a role in making you who you are today. The problem with trying to get back to where we were is that we are not making any progress in life. We will be stuck in a rut and we will be displeased to find that things aren’t as they once were. Whatever path you have been on in life was used to get you exactly where you are now. That being said, you should not stay stagnant and wallow in the present. Always keep moving forward.  Every time we get some ground we turn ourselves around again. That cant happen. The past will intertwine into our future and it will help to shape it, but yet the past does not DEFINE your future. The key is to take the next step in your life that “makes sense “. There is never a bad decision that you can make, just ones that may not work out long term. That should not stop you from making decisions.  It is like driving a car, as you drive forward you need to check your rear view mirror occasionally. If you are driving your car in traffic and you don’t take your eyes off of the rear view mirror, you will crash. You will also hurt others in the process. The same goes for life, the past will always be a part of you and you cannot help but glance back at it occasionally. The part you must remember is that if you focus too much on the past then you will crash and you will hurt people. Life is short and is full of experience. Whatever you want out of life, make it happen. Taste defeat, then brush your teeth. 

 

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Mindset

After a month and a half of being low and spiritually depressed (Mostly by my own doing), God has led me to a light at the end of this tunnel… I see the purpose.

There is good and there is best. Sometimes, I don’t even have the good in mind, let alone the best. Lately, I’ve been wondering if I have some or most of this wrong… this walk with Christ. Certain things that I think I should feel or go through, is that really what ought to happen? Take God’s love for me, and mine for Him: I don’t want an emotion anymore, a high, I want knowledge. I want to be confident that I am loved by Him (Perhaps some emotion will flow from that, but knowledge, to me, is the foundation). What does that feel like though? Does it really feel like what I think it should feel like? How much do I look at my walk with Jesus through tainted eyes and a tainted mind?

Jesus asks the Pharisees a question after quite a few questions by them… “What do you think about the Christ, whose son is He?” (Matt 22:42a). The Pharisees answer, “The son of David” (Matt 22:42b). Listen to this, “He said to them, ‘Then how does David in the Spirit call Him ‘Lord’…If David then calls Him ‘Lord’, how is He his son?” (Matt 22:43, 45). The Pharisees had in mind what was good (Good for them, of course… and even Isreal to a certain degree), not what was best.

Earthly vs Eternal… that’s what it comes down to in the realm of what our mindset ought to be. The Pharisees had a very earthly idea of the Messiah: Free us from Rome, set us (The Pharisees) in a place of honor, rule the world. The Father has a much different idea of the Messiah: Live among them, be reject by them, die for them. His mindset is eternal; caring much more about the soul than the body.

I know that God is calling me to a total change of mindset. I look at what I do and know that, more often than not, I have myself in mind… my wants, my pleasures, my feelings. I find that I disguise this into a genuine pursuit of Christ. I don’t want to pursue what my idea of Christ is, I want to pursue CHRIST! I don’t want to go through a journey that I think is acceptable, I want to go through the journey that Christ deems worthy. What a subtle deceit this is! I pray that you examine this within yourself as well. It is a hard thing to realize, and an even harder thing to see, but I am confident that God will give us the eyes to see.

Something is not right in me… Do I really have this “thing” right?

Seasons of Change

With each passing season I am reminded of the regeneration of things that comes after the demise of things…..with every ending comes a new beginning. This past year has been full of ups and downs, and surrounded by change. Whenever anybody has asked me ” what’s new?” I just say, everything! In one years time so much can change, and that doesn’t mean change is bad. I have learned that change doesn’t mean bad, it just means different. Looking at the park behind my house I saw one-day, trees that were bare and lifeless. It seems as though overnight the lease is grown and flowers have bloomed. It gives me hope that even though things may seem fair and lifeless in one day in any situation things can turn around and become brighter than before. I personally believe that Springtime is a special kind of season. The saying spring cleaning has a deeper meaning than just cleaning out closets. It means to me cleansing things in my life and renewing myself as a person to prepare for the rest of the year. Change is good. Life is beautiful.

Restless…

The feeling of restlessness is a hard one to deal with. It stems from a lack of contentment. I feel that in my current situation I am restless. I would argue that I am content with my life, but I would have to remind myself that if that was the case then I wouldn’t be so restless. after the divorce I moved to royal oak, a city I have always wanted to live in. I started over new and I rented a house by a beautiful park. I got the house set up with my furniture, I bought a hot tub and a hammock and patio furniture for the backyard. I even set up a fire pit. I had lots of gatherings at my place and entertained often. I settled in to the new life and got myself emotionally healthy again.  It is coming close to the time that my one year rental contract at this house is up. My mind is racing with decisions. I went back and forth on whether I should renew the contract and stay at the house another year, but the idea of a contract scares me.

The offer then came up by a travel nursing company for me to go to Hawaii or California to work for three month contracts. It was very appealing. I would make twice as much as what i am making now and all of my living expenses would have been paid. it sounded like a wonderful offer and it would be less stress on my end. I tossed the idea around for a while. I don’t exactly have roots here. I have a great job and a great church and also great friends, although I have learned that all of these things are still temporary and not irreplaceable. I turned down the offer because I feel committed to the hospital I work at currently and I am not ready to leave there. The idea is still in the back of my mind though, it is a great opportunity to do travel nursing, especially in my position with no settled roots here. There are many factors that go into the process and there are so many options. It is exciting to think about the opportunities but it is scary to think that I may not make the right one. I am learning that I am the author of my life now, I don’t have anybody to turn to to speak the right answers to me. I have talked to many different people about the life choices and opportunities and they all give different opinions. The key is understanding that they are all opinions. I have come to realize that I get to make the final decision, and the outcome lies withing my hands. No decision can be a wrong one. sometimes the key is to find contentment. I think that is what I need to focus on now…contentment…sometimes the best decision is no decision….finding comfort in the current situation as it is.  Phillipians 4:11 “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, to be content.”