The Polish Woman-DONT JUDGE

Today I went to the hospital to drop off a prescription and when I was in the parking garage trying to park I had quite an interesting experience… There was an SUV that kept backing in and out of a space trying to get out. There was at least 10 cars behind me waiting to get past this car. Finally when the driver pulled in one more time before she reversed the three cars in front of me zoomed past and I followed around we were all frustrated. I looked back at the car and it was an old lady in there.. The remaining cars that were waiting continue to zoom past behind me. I parked one floor up and I had a feeling that something wasn’t right. I walked down to the next level in the parking garage and went up to the car door of the lady that was again trying to reverse out of a space. I went to her driver side window and asked her if she was in need of help. She said, “yes I am”. I said how about you get into the passenger seat and I drive your car out of here for you. She immediately got out and went around to the passenger side no questions asked. As I drove down a couple of the ramps I talked to her to try to figure out what was going on she said that she had eyes surgery today and it was supposed to wait but she had to get back home right away so she left the office early. Her family was too busy to drive her to her eye surgery today. I told her that it was not a good idea for her to leave right now and that she should wait. I sat in the car with her for 20 minutes while she told me stories of her coming to this country with only five dollars in her pocket. It didn’t look like her eye condition was getting better enough to drive so I parked her car in a different spot and brought her inside with me to fill my prescription. While we waited for my prescription to get filled and we had lunch and continued to chat. She was the sweetest 80-year-old lady I have met. Of course I am biased towards Polish people but she had a lot of wisdom to share and she had quite an interesting story. Once her vision came back to normal I walked her back to her car and made sure that she got out of the parking garage okay. She thanked me and told me that God sent an angel to help her today and that she was very grateful. I learned a lesson in humility today. I was so frustrated and angry at this person who could not back out of the space and was holding everybody up while in the meantime it was somebody who was struggling and needed help. I need to exercise Grace more frequently in life as much as has been given to me over the years. We are in such a hurry so many times that it’s hard to see what’s really going on around us.

Homeless in Detroit

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This homeless guy was sitting inside a restaurant in Greektown and people inside the restaurant called the police on him for being there. Cops responded and removed him from the facility. I asked the people that were sitting next to him why they called the police. They said ” he smelled bad and he is homeless, I don’t want to deal with that while I am eating my dessert.” I can understand that point…to an extent….. What was unique about the situation was that the police officer went back in and bought the guy a coffee and brought it out to him. Then he proceeded to tell the man that he hopes he does better in life and makes better choices. My friend went up and asked the guy his name and prayed over him. He was very thankful and said that nobody has done that for him before and that nobody even cares what his name is. Homeless people are people too…..they are human beings. They may struggle with addiction many times, but we all have our own struggles that aren’t as obvious.  We were meant to love people and not judge them. It is unrealistic (and a bad idea) to give cash to every homeless person that you see on the street. It is a good thing to make eye contact and acknowledge them as a person instead of walking past to avoid the begging question we all expect.

Ive lived on the streets, I know the routine. My family comes from the inner city, so I can boldly say- It is NOT wise to give a homeless person money “for the bus” or “for groceries” or whatever the story may be.  You are doing more HARM than good. It is better ( yet more time consuming) to walk them into a nearby restaurant and buy them a sandwich or food. If they refuse that- there is your answer….walk away and wish them the best…they have choices to make in life as well. You cant save everyone..but you can love people and change the world one life at a time.

Human Trafficking= Modern Day Slavery==PLEASE SHARE!!!!

traff2I want to shed some light on an issue that most are unaware of. In some cases we just don’t want to see it. Today over 27,000,000 women and children are being enslaved and sold on the black market for sex. This happens all over the world…including your backyard. it happens in the most obvious of places and the girls are taken from open locations such as malls and the sidewalks when they are walking alone.

Definition= Sex trafficking is the exploitation of a person for commercial sexual activity through force, fraud or coercion. Victims of sex trafficking are often forced to engage in prostitution, exotic dancing, or pornography. Children who are exploited for sex are also considered a trafficking victim, even if there is no evident force or coercion. They don’t know better and they are not given a choice.

~~~~~~There are a few different ways this begins. If you have ever noticed missing children ads…as sad as it may be, they may have been picked up and sold into slavery. The FBI and police forces are running undercover operations to try and recover these girls everyday. There are blatant ads on the internet ( the websites of which I will not list if you don’t already know about them). I want to make you aware of this occurrence because slavery used to be predominantly black people in the past and that was brought to light and fixed…..slavery was abolished in our nation 150 years ago but today THERE ARE MORE PEOPLE IN SLAVERY THAN ANY TIME IN OUR HISTORY!!!!!!!!  Today these are women, children, sometimes men and little boys as well as foreigners in many cases.  17,500 foreign nationals are trafficked each year. 40% of human trafficking cases involve children. 76% of interactions with these children begin on the internet. This is happening in broad daylight and people don’t know about it and they don’t know what to do if they find out.

Prostitution= Many people look at the women on the street and look down on them because they are selling their bodies for sex. Well let me tell you…I am based in Detroit and I have done a lot of street work personally and the statistics also show that these women are NOT there by choice. Hence, human trafficking. These women are sent out by their “daddys” or “pimps” and they are told to make between $200-$2000 per night and if they don’t then they will be severely beaten and in some cases killed. these women are brainwashed and fear for their lives. When they come to me on the forensics side of it they sometimes tell me that they are going back because they have no other choice and they cant live any other way. These are not normal scenarios. this is abuse and force. these women and children have been given no other choice and they do it to stay alive. in some cases they do it because their children are being threatened if they don’t make enough money by performing sexual acts. So next time you see prostitution; REMEMBER; this is NOT their choice to do so 90% of the time. I have seen an example of a case by choice–my own mother (I wrote about her in my earlier blogs- she chooses to sell her body for sex to get drugs. nobody forces her, but that is a rare case) Do you honestly think that teenage girls when deciding where to go to college wake up one morning and say “I want to be a prostitute and work the streets when I grow up” NO. These women need help!

PLEASE BE AWARE- If you pass by or see anything that may be suspicious for human trafficking here are some resources:

National human trafficking resource hotline  24hrs/day    1-888-373-7888

National Domestic Violence Hotline-   1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Sexual Abuse Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network      1-800-656- 4673

Suicidal Thoughts- National Suicide prevention Hotline     1-800-273- Talk (8255)

Dating Violence   – National Dating Abuse Helpline      1-866-331-9474

Best Advice: Everybody needs a mentor

As much as we all like to give our own opinions and advice, we all need opinions and advice to move forward in life. With some decisions that we make in order to take the final step, sometimes we need a different person to agree or disagree and to give us sound advice on their opinion preference. This does not mean that we make all of our decisions based on other people, this just means that we admit that we don’t always have all the answers. It is important to have somebody in your life to go to in times of crisis or in times of need when you can’t think straight and you need somebody to help filter the thoughts. Wise counsel is something to be sought after. That is why it is very important to have somebody solid, credible and trustworthy to turn to at these times. Having a good mentor in your life makes a huge difference. Sometimes that person may tell you what you want to hear because it won’t hurt you and doing so they know that you just need the extra motivation. But sometimes they will tell you the truth and it is what you don’t want to hear and your reaction to it may justify the reason that you indeed need to take the advice. Everybody needs a mentor. I mentor people everyday. More than ever now, after publishing my book. Many people come to me for advice and questions and want solid answers. The more and more that I put myself out there for other people, the more I realize how important it is for even me to have a solid mentor to go to. If I continue to pour myself out and have nobody there to fill me back up I will burn out quickly. I highly encourage everyone to find somebody that is full of wisdom and good sound advice.

One thing that I see most often is that we tend to hang out with people that are just like us. It is easy to go to their friends and ask their advice. Being that our friends are typically just like us, we know they will give us answers that we want to hear. This is why it is important to have a broad scope of friends. Being out of your comfort zone is a good thing. When you hang out with people that are not just like you, you get a chance to learn about other people, other cultures and gain perspective. Insight is a beautiful thing when it isn’t selective. Because you choose to be a Republican does that mean you do not want democratic friends? Because you’re straight does that mean you don’t want homosexual friends??? It is important to be open and have a broad scope. When it comes to making the final decisions in your life, ultimately you go with what is in your heart. Having solid people around you to advise you and guide you does not hurt. It helps and heals. You cannot give somebody else something that you don’t have. That is why it is important to stay filled up and ready at any moment to help others because you know that you are at 100% yourself. Surround yourself with positive people. If there are people in your life that bring you down change your group of friends. Life is too short to miss out on opportunities and have bad days. Happiness is a choice.

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